Many questions for your personal development…

Sometimes, it's best to ask yourself why you want to utilize personal development techniques to become popular in the first place. Why do you want to become popular? Is there someone or something in particular that you want to impress? If you can ask yourself the hard questions (and answer them honestly) about what you want and why, then you are ready for your next step.

Try mind mapping a personal mission statement to help you design and achieve your ideal life. When you are uncertain where your life is heading, or when you doubt your own abilities, this mission statement will remind you: who you are, what you are determined to achieve, and what you have already accomplished to date.  See the mind map I created to go with this article.

By building yourself a mission statement, you will then have your own personal plan to keep you on track and answerable to yourself. It's a significant personal compass, and one that you can carry with you at all times.

Be Comfortable and Confident

One of the first things to remember is that confident body language can often help you be more at ease with yourself and who you are. Like ducks to water, people will flock to you when you exude confidence~Like ducks to water, people will flock to you when you exude confidence}. Remember, the happier you are with yourself, the happier others will be with you too.

Your Style and Look

Just as Picasso, Da Vinci, and Rembrandt crafted and molded masterpieces that incorporated themselves, so must your personal image be carved, painted, shaded, and shaped the best way that represents you. Contrary to what most people would believe, constantly switching up the style of your appearance seems rather desperate for popularity, rather than cemented in confidence of one's self. For example, a nice short hair cut could do wonders for an individual to bring out their eyes, or smile. These simple changes can give you a real confidence boost, but ensure it is a look that best represents who you are.

Dress with Pride - Clean and Crisp. So, dress like an apple

I remember my elders telling me that an apple a day keeps the doctor away. I wondered to my self several years later, if we’ve discovered this revolutionary information, why don’t we utilize it? Why do we refuse to take action? These questions can only be answered by poor choices in habit. The healthier we are, the better we feel. Feeling well and healthy, often naturally transpires into looking healthy. people are attracted to those who look healthy. Washing your face twice daily with a soap that fits your skin type will help even better. Should I mention the basics like, wash your hair, use a deodorant, and cleaning your teeth will aid in your quest for popularity? I suppose I just did.

Be Passionate

Throughout the years, America, and many other countries, has created movies that dazzle us and shoots us toward some form of personal development. They wrap us in a choke hold of suspense, or they drown us in admiration for a fictional character’s plights, victories, and lessons learned. One common characteristic all of the heroes in those movies have, is passion. Their passion is the reason our breaths become baited with anticipation of their triumph. Those story bound people have what most viewers feel they lack.

Now, if we focus on the real life characters with passion we see why Abraham Lincoln, John F. Kennedy, Martin Luther King, Jr., Malcolm X, George Lucas, Michael Jackson, Truman Capote, Fred Astaire, and Princess Diana were so popular. In regards to their passion for what they achieved, they astounded many, and bewildered the rest. Try getting involved in the things you have a strong interest and talent in. The stronger your passion, the greater your spirit will shine, and the more people will flock to you like a shepherd guiding their way.

Hesitate To Shine No More

Your gifts and talents should not be hidden from the world. Never hesitate to share your interests with others. By showing all facets of who you are, your knowledge, and your capacity to learn what you didn’t know, will cause people to forge relationships with you, almost instantly! The more people you expose this talent to, the more a ripple effect of popularity and charm with shine over you. Your name will spread faster. But beware of the vanity and arrogance that infect most individuals who catch the popularity bug. Be humble, and open to new ideas, new people, and new ways to express your thoughts creatively.

Talk It Up

Make sure to keep talking. No, you don’t want to become a chatter bird, constantly rambling on and on to be friendly, while everyone else wants you to shut up. This is the type of talking that is comfortable and reassuring. When you speak, try to make a point, or discover information. At the end of the day, it is all about communication.

Try to talk to at least one person, whom you do not know, each day. After you’ve mastered that for a week, then try talking to two others unknown to you daily. The next week, try to talk to three, etc. You need to gradually over time, (and practice makes perfect) feel more comfortable with chatting with anyone.

Do Something New

Try to venture out into the unknown and familiarize yourself with it. It is often too easy to sit back in our comfort zone. We cling to our environment, our culture, our personal forms of entertainment; but trying something new, more than once a decade, is one of the best ways to gain popularity.

Bear in mind that you should only participate if you really want to, not because you only want the attention for it. When you do decide to try something new, make sure you have a genuine interest in doing it and are not just doing it because you should. It’s a hold your breath underwater as long as you can, but make sure you can swim first kind of thing.

Oh, and never show off when you do participate in things you’ve never tried. These things could be attending a writing class, joining a short term business class, enjoying the theater arts, or celebrating with a wonderful dinner, glass of wine, and chat by the fireplace. Ensure you spend time with people who enjoy what they do, to give you the best opportunity for a positive experience. This can only help you to become more popular.

Go With the Flow

Do you remember when you where younger and you discovered a talent you had, one that was magically given to you in the blink of an eye, and you happened to master within two to five minutes? But do you remember talking the talent to someone, a teacher, mom, dad, sibling, or grandparent, and having your talent completely flop and not work. “I did it so many times before,” you’d muffle through embarrassed eyes. Well, you shouldn’t have been embarrassed, because we all have gone through this. Our momentary talent show is ruined, because we are thinking about it too hard. We concentrate so hard on getting it right and not messing up that we end up doing just that.

Just like in the analogy used in the previous paragraph, so must you relate it to the world of popularity? Embrace new ideas, be open to new styles, cultures, etc after all the key to popularity is about you being true to yourself while being open enough to accept new things. Try something at least once, that’s within your moral and ethical boundaries, and if you don’t like it then don’t do it again. The more you are exposed to, the more you understand or have empathy for. The people you meet, and the friends that you make along your way to social stardom will send your spirit soaring through the sky, a shinning star, bright with status, regard, and esteem.