Your personal power is your ability to do something about the way your life is going. This comes as a surprise for most people. The number of people who spend their lives convinced that they are a victim is surprising. Realising that you can build your own life is something many people find very hard to get to grips with. The "victimhood" belief, is a very hard one to shake. We think ourselves as an individual surrouned by events and circumstances that are totally out of our control. Life is something that just happens around us.

It is a concept we find hard to accept, this ability to make a difference to ourselves or others, to see ourselves as someone with personal power. We spend so much time blaming everything that happens on "events" for where we are. So much so, that even when things are going well we don't take ownership but put it down to luck, chance - nothing to do with us.

It's found that women in particular are more likely to give away their personal power. The danger for them is what's called "false yin". This is where you let things be done to you, where you are too passive and lose the ability to distinguish between being passive and being receptive.

Receptivity is something quite powerful, passivity just allows other people to take charge of our life. Receptivity involves awareness and being open to the universe. Passivity is dull and unaware. When one is truly receptive, one is truly alive. When one is passive, one is half-dead.

The issue of personal power also involves other people. The reality is that none of us live alone. We live our lives in constant interaction with others. Living life from a position of personal power is intimately connected with the way in which we are with other people.

There are some people in our lives who take from us, there are others who support us. We need to be clear about this. Loss of personal power often involves another person. We can be too submissive to our husband, our wife, our children.

Personal power can only be used in relation to others, that's why we have to be able to look at our relationships clearly. How many wives or mothers put aside something they want to do in their lives because they are afraid to uspset their husband or child.

It would be a good idea, to take a day a week or a month, the longer the better and keep a journal or diary examining and noting the way in which you as a person relate to people in your life. Note the people who take, note the people who support, note your own reaction. Are you receptive? Are you passive? Are you submissive? Do you act with personal authority?

The key to accessing your personal power is how aware you are of yourself, that's key. What is the ratio between how often you let decision be made for you and how often you take charge? When you take time to consider this, be really honest with yourself. Do this and things could change for the better.

Taking charge of your life improves everything, you start to become a happier, healthier person, a more interesting one too.

People who see themselves as a victim become boring; always blaming other people or random circumstance for the state their life is. Oppositely, we enjoy being in the company of people who are independent, thinking, people who grasp the challenges of life and take them head on.

There is no question, that a person who is connected to their own personal power, is magnetic and attractive to others. People are drawn to them and enjoy their company. So, cease to be a victim take on your own personal power and improve your relationships by 100%.

Do you find yourself at the mercy of events or are you in charge of your lifelife ? Have you found out what your personal powerpersonal power is? This essay explores how to get to grips with your personal power and using it to make you stronger.